Thursday, September 3, 2009

You give me Fever...

Babies that is. A little background on N and I...we have been married for almost 5 years (yes I got married young, don't wanna hear flack) and we both want to start a family in the near future. I am beyond ecstatic because when N was in the Marines when we first got married, I was ready then. I have always always always wanted to be a young mom/wife. N and I both want for me to stay home with our kids. #1, it is SO important to raise your kids in my opinion. I am not bashing any womans choice in working while having young kids at home, but for me, it is so important for me to stay at home and raise our kids. When I look back when I'm 80 years old, I don't want to be in my bed with N next to me in bed reading Stephen Kings 100 millionth book, and regret not raising our kids because we HAD to have a new car. Or we put them in day care because we couldn't budget correctly or frankly just going out to dinner/lunch 1 time too many times a month. I hate to get Dr. Laura on everyone, but even that woman pushes how important it is for YOU to raise your kids, not your mom or dad, not your sister or brother, a friend or neighbor. Being around Bon Bon and her little Aly, I watch them and Aly loves Bon Bon so much and Aly is SOOOOOO close to walking its not even funny. I can't imagine missing my babies first step because we were at work.

Now on that note, like I mentioned earlier I want to be a young mom. Let me rephrase that, I don't want to be a young mom like I really want a new purse, my maternal clock or whatever you want to call it is ticking and has been for about 4 years. I don't believe there is any time that is the "right" time. People make it work constantly and you have to BUDGET and MAKE SACRAFICES. But in the end it pays off and you get to raise the kids. I think if you keep saying "lets wait until the car is paid off" or "I want to be in this job for at least 1 year" or "I want to wait until we buy a house", you will keep putting it off and putting it off and putting it off. Lets face it, there are ALWAYS things that are going to come up. A car that needs major work, a freezer that breaks and you need to buy a new one ASAP, just about anything and everything can come up. Heck, you could even LOSE your job. Nothing is ever guranteed. Plans change so you have to make what YOU want/need in life work. I don't mean give up any fun weekends or dinners with your hubby (these you should most def keep to stay connected. VERY IMPORTANT). You are going to be fine no matter what happens and you can always make it work.